Say "I Love You" Without Actually Saying, "I Love You"
Posted: Saturday, August 15, 2009
by Avis Ward
GeoVi's Home for Pregnant Teens
We should give the object of our affection what they need to receive from us the way they wish to receive it. The best way to do this is to ask their preferences. In honoring their preferences, we must not fail to be ourselves and show our affection the way that is unique to us. We must be ourselves, too.
To say "I love you" without saying "I love you" does not mean these three meaningful words are not to be uttered. You know yourself and partner better than I do. Do what you know pleases you and him/her. Here are a dozen suggestions to communicate with your lover in a nonverbal manner. Personalize, adjust or alter them to best suit you and your spouse.
Does that always happen? No but there is a credit on each account, if you will, when saying "I love you" without uttering the words but reflecting them in your behavior toward each other. Create ways to do this for the health of your marriage. Making this an ongoing yet unpredictable tradition will enhance your relationship. To make these suggestions a baker's dozen, I will add:
August 2009 by Avis Ward of GeoVi's Home for Pregnant Teens
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To say "I love you" without saying "I love you" does not mean these three meaningful words are not to be uttered. You know yourself and partner better than I do. Do what you know pleases you and him/her. Here are a dozen suggestions to communicate with your lover in a nonverbal manner. Personalize, adjust or alter them to best suit you and your spouse.
- Be spontaneous. Stop to smell the roses together. A field of wildflowers can be explored while taking a drive home together. This can be done even if the kids are present. You're in the city? Take a detour to the country.
- Invite your mate home for lunch on occasion. Serve him/her a hot lunch! Work at home with young kids? It's worth finding a Mommy's Day Out program on occasion.
- Draw a bath for the stay-at-home-parent and let her/him luxuriate as you take the kids out. No kids? Join in the bath.
- Write a love letter. Recall the moment you knew he/she was the one for you.
- Plan a surprise night out with his/her best friend. Not possible because of distance? Choose an alternate or make it you!
- Schedule a makeover for her.
- Schedule a spa treatment for each other.
- Schedule a day of golf, fishing, hiking, etc for him.
- Schedule age appropriate medical exams and routine screenings based on family history.
- Keep the lines of communication open, no matter what.
- Be trustworthy and forgiving.
- Show respect and honor each other at all times.
Does that always happen? No but there is a credit on each account, if you will, when saying "I love you" without uttering the words but reflecting them in your behavior toward each other. Create ways to do this for the health of your marriage. Making this an ongoing yet unpredictable tradition will enhance your relationship. To make these suggestions a baker's dozen, I will add:
- Initiate making love to satisfy your partner in ways you know he/she receives the most pleasure and enjoyment.
August 2009 by Avis Ward of GeoVi's Home for Pregnant Teens
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Top-level comments on this article: (5 total)Great insight, Avis. We often get so caught up in the daily grind that we forget the simple things that mean so much. Thanks for reminding us!Thank you for appreciating the reminder, Bruce. Yes, it is "the simple things that mean so much."
Avis, if this article was money, you would be rich...Smile... This IS what you call a "Twelve Step Program" for a foundational relationship in marriage. I love it."12 Step Program for Marriage"..............................You have somethingI am looking to see this in copyright. (There is a 12 step program for drugs.)Remember me!What a tremendous idea and challenge! Wow, you could be my mentor, Doc. You're stretching me.
You're also very good for the ego I try to keep in check. The encouragement and support will not be misplaced. I remain humble and grateful. Thank you with a sincere heart!How could I ever forget ya? :)
hi avis,wow, this is a departure, which i think is great, and i thought this article was excellent, and have done these things. i think the best thing we can do for love is to nurture it.thank you for sharing this,my best regards,suep.s. the bath one is my favorite :)Hi Sue,Yes, a departure of late and thanks for thinking it's great. Glad you like these and even have a favorite. :)Your support is always appreciated.Warm regards,Avis
Beautifully written, Avis. Lots of relevant information and great advice.Thank you very much, Ken. I am pleased you found the information relevant. I am "pro" marriage even though divorced. We should learn from our mistakes, shouldn't we? :)
'Keep the lines of communication open, no matter what' is the best advice for any relationship. This is very well done, Avis.Michael, thank you very much. I appreciate your comments. I agree, too. "best advice for any relationship." Hope you're having a very good day!
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