When Drugs Enter Your Home

They are a loving couple, baby boomers, each in a second marriage. The honeymoon phase was waning but was suddenly obliterated without a moment's notice. Drugs entered this regular church going, committee chairing, and officer holding couple's marriage.

Discovered accidentally, it is wreaking havoc on what God had joined together. The user doesn't feel he is at fault and is passing the blame on his doting wife. He blames the wife who insisted on taking him to the emergency room because he had been whining most of the night; and was in pain from a work injury sustained earlier in the day. His problem would not have come to light if she had let him suffer. He blames the wife who insists he take herbal supplements which showed up in the blood work that was drawn. A workers compensation claim makes urinalysis and blood work standard.

Ignorance is to blame? Shouldn't he have known if illegal drugs were in his system, he should not have gone to the ER at her insistence? Shouldn't he know that herbal supplements are different from illegal drugs? And testing is sophisticated enough to know the difference between herbal and herb, aka, marijuana? And even if he were on prescription medications, he would have had to prove he had a legal prescription for certain drugs had he tested positively for them?

This part is water under the bridge. The secret is out. The wife is putting two and two together about past incidents and having difficulty. Because of divine intervention, he was not fired but required to attend classes which he has to pay for himself. This adds an additional financial burden to an already financially strapped household.

Their home was burglarized and investigated as suspicious. The insurance company refused to pay the claim and after legal representation for this family, they lost. These things are coming back to cause greater mistrust. Other incidents have occurred involving an overnight stay on the water and the Coast Guards not intervening.

Denial.

Suspicion.

Mistrust.

Deception.

Lies.

Irregularities.

Inconsistencies.

This is the work of the enemy, whose mission is to kill, steal and destroy anything resembling God's handiwork.

Marriage.

Family.

Unity.

Love.

While listening to my girlfriend's skepticism that her marriage would survive this because . . . She gave a litany of reasons that were not based on the vows they took. She gave reasons that were completely based on "the way I am" instead of "The Way. The I Am."

It wasn't my place to criticize or condemn her if she divorced her husband. It was my place, however, to remind my friend what she knew about God and that she had to apply this knowledge in their situation.

We have an answer to every problem and fear evil presents to us. The answer is faith and confidence in God. If drugs enter your home, give it to God. Stand by your man and loved ones just as He stands by us. I agree sometimes this can be best accomplished at a physical distance but not always. Just remember, where sin abounds, grace abounds much more. Meaning, we do not have more sin than His grace has already forgiven us.

Author's note: Also, please get help for someone you know or suspect is a substance abuser. If you are that someone, ask for help. Call 800-784-6776. If outside of the US, please get help in your area.

Avis Ward of AvisWard.com