How-to Move On from a Painful Past
Posted: Monday, April 13, 2009
by Avis Ward
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Young Christian ladies often ask for advice about moving on from a painful past. They have said, "I can't seem to do it but I want, too." Instinctively, one knows the opposite sex is entangled, intertwined and embedded somewhere. And then, part B of the question comes. "Can a man help by disclosing what real men feel?"
Most of the young ladies appear to have an understanding that healing can take place because, "God is ready to deliver them", if allowed.
Emotional wounds hurt and last longer than physical ones. A scratch or cut will scab over and eventually, the scar will disappear with the help of a bit of cocoa butter or Mederma. But even if the scar doesn't disappear, when it heals completely, it no longer hurts.
Would it not be wonderful if that were true of emotional scarring? I have Good News, it is! Cocoa butter costs and Mederma, much more. The Healer of our emotional scars already paid the cost. We collectively rejoiced over that just yesterday.
Because of Christ's death, "we can't" is an illusion. "We can" do ALL things through Christ who gives us [liberally and generously] the strength to do them.
God "has" healed us. We must accept our healing just as we accepted Him as our Savior. Please do not think for one second, I do not understand or know how difficult past hurts are to overcome. I learned, it was difficult to overcome when I remained in 'self' instead of in Christ'. We must accept every infallible Word of God for every circumstance in our lives, not just for some of them on a selective basis. To do that would mean religion and not relationship.
I have overcome but it was not until I surrendered the past to Christ that total healing was received. It is in Him that we live and have our being. We are not our own. A great price was paid for us yet we are given the freedom to choose.
Part B to receiving total healing from a sordid, hurtful, shameful and forgiven past is not directly connected with men. I sincerely feel before knowing how a real man feels, we must first know what our Heavenly Man feels about the senseless burdens we carry. When a real man tells us how he feels, how can we truly receive it as healing balm when we're still broken?
I offer this. Seek God first and we can better discern what's on the heart of a real man because God will reveal it to us. Please know that I adore men. I'm not a male basher. I love all men (and mankind, I must add). And in loving men, it is important that I do not take severely damaged goods to them.
Sure, we may have a bit of junk but all of it is under the blood [of Christ], when we choose to abide in Him and allow His Word to abide in us.
This direct delivery is overwhelmingly received. The reasons why are numerous but I feel strongly one reason is because we hastily write the scripts for the days of each others' lives- past, present and future. No one knows the troubles we have seen, are seeing, or will see down the road, like Jesus does.
2009 by Avis Ward of Avis Ward.com
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Top-level comments on this article: (1 total)Dear, dear Avis, your article brings to light again the pearl of great price! How many young women and young men, as well as males and females across the age spectrum, need the assurance that you can give in Christ and do give so freely and sincerely! God bless you, dear writing friend!!! Your message of God's love and power to heal the hidden scars is clear, reassuring, strong and confident in its movement.Blessings on you this day from our heavenly Father and Lord,JaneDear Jane,
I glorify the Lord for what He does through me. In doing so, I have an appreciation and gratitude when someone receives, relates, relishes and responds as you have. It's a feel-good feeling that isn't prideful. I respect you as writer and aspire to be as prolific with the pen as you are. Even your comments are masterful! Thank you, my dear writer friend and spiritual sister. I am encouraged.
Many blessings from our Father to you.
With the love of Christ,
Avis
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