Valentine's Day and the Single, Unattached Woman
Posted: Thursday, February 07, 2008
by Avis Ward
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I am a single, unattached woman. I am not dating anyone, even casually. I had the same status and happy circumstances for my birthday in October, at Christmas and the New Year. I did celebrate those occasions however, with people I love and who love me.I will be candid. I have been married and happy on Valentine's Day. I have been married and unhappy on Valentine's Day. What I reminded myself then as I do now is it doesn't take someone to create happiness for me. I'm not an uncaring, nonchalant, cold, frigid, impassionate woman. Au contrairé! I happen to know who I am and whose I am. I have for a very long time, thanks to two loving parents and a host of other positive influences in my life.
I have learned to be content in whatever state (status) I am and to nourish that part of me that does not require being affirmed or accepted. The affirmation and acceptance came through the bloodshed of Christ.
Therefore, as a single unattached woman, I am not alone nor am I feeling unloved and undesirable. Valentine's Day has nothing to do with it. I am the bride of Christ and am happy in being so.
I respect and believe in marriage. My parents were married for 38 years before mother's passing. They had a very solid marriage. They flirted with each other and were very much into each other. I know it wasn't easy as I've "been there and done that." He just wasn't like my dad!
What should a single, unattached woman do on Valentine's Day? I'll share with you what I do routinely because I'm in love and I am loved. Falling in love with Jesus was the best thing I've ever done.
Valentine's Day is on a Thursday so I will:
- Make party favors of Hershey's hugs and kisses and take to an Assisted Living Home
- Take several bottles of chilled sparkling white grape juice
- Serenade and dance with them
- Listen to charming stories of how they met or a favorite wedding anniversary or memory
- Come home to a cozy fire, Godiva truffles (bought for myself), and sparkling mineral water
- Play a collection of instrumental jazz I burned, light candles and pray as I take a relaxing bubble bath, afterwards
- Moisturize my skin, pin up my hair and adorn my red silk jammies, then
- Sit on the couch in front of a fire and begin serenading our Father, who is with me, to the instrumental jazz
- Take several bottles of chilled sparkling white grape juice
There may come a time when I desire a mate but now isn't that time. I am fulfilled by the spontaneity of praise and worship I enjoy. I cherish the spiritual intimacy I have as the bride of Christ. I am not alone or feel lonely. Valentine's Day does nothing to upset the peace of God that passes all understanding that I know through Him. He's altogether lovely and wonderful to me.
If you're wondering what I'll have for dinner, I told you. Chocolate and water! Lunch will be hearty so I can enjoy this treat at dinner. (If I get hungry, I can eat Cheerios with sliced almonds anytime, day or night.)
So there you have it. On Valentine's Day, this single, unattached woman will enjoy time with others, herself and her Lord. And you know something? That's really no different than any other day the Lord blesses her to see.
Happy Valentine's Day to all of you, especially to the single, unattached men and women!
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Top-level comments on this article: (6 total)Great Writing, Avis. I have not been single for a long time, still I am very much my own person. Valentine's day to me is one more day of each day of the year for us to be grateful for the people that God places in our lives. I am grateful and blessed!Suzi, thanks so very much. Our spirits agree. What you stated in these comments is what I learned about you in your frontpage article. It was there and deserving to be read. Enjoy every day of the rest of your life. I join you in being grateful and blessed. Take special care!
Well Avis to all of us who know you you will never be without a Valentine. Yes, the right one if it be the Lords will and shall appear at the time and place least expected. In these troubled times it is not always another partner that brings happiness. It is those who truly love you, true love by word and deed. Therefore relish in your family and those you find joy with. Well here is a valentine for you from someone who cares and for a very special lady, HAPPY VALENTINES DAY and as you have that chocolate, think of me smiling and wishing you the very best! RTMWell, RTM, you have me smiling. Thank you very kindly for the beautiful comments and their complements! I appreciate your friendship and caring heart. Your wisdom shines through and it blesses me. I will think of you as a tasty morsel slides across my tongue and escapes down my throat. I'll take a swallow, sip, another swallow, smile and say, "cheers!" Always wishing the very best for you and yours! —Avis
hi avis, i liked the way this article smoothly ran together. and i liked the content. no day is lonely if we know God is within our hearts. i hope you enjoy what sounds like a very nice valentine's day of love, best regards, sueHiya Sue, thank you for liking the article. "No day is lonely if we know God is within our hearts." Amen! I've been thinking about you and saying your name in my prayers. I hope you enjoy a lovely Valentine's Day, too. Also Sue, I appreciate you for taking time to do what I don't. I read articles but not always leave comments. You're wonderful!
wow avis, thank you, i appreciate that. and saying my name in your prayers, i humbly receive your gift, thank you. i'm not done yet, i'll let you know! i leave comments because the stories move me, and i want to make sure the writer knows that. i have more time to do so, you just keep on readin', my best regards, sue
Dear Avis - a "right on" article that many need to heed. I especially like when you wrote, "... it doesn't take someone to create happiness for me...." I married late (38) but felt the same as you -- through Him, I was complete; not through man and though I love my husband, the Lord still comes first. Happy Valentine's Day, sweet Avis!Dear Judi, thank you for your very nice comments. You are an overcomer because the Lord is first in your life. Anyone reading your articles can feel His presence in your carefully selected words. A sweet day to you and hubby. A special Valentine's Day *kiss* for your Laura. Thanks again, Judi!
Hi Avis, this is a very lovely article. Well done. I am also single at this present moment in time but I am not without valentines cards. My children have been very busy for two weeks now making them almost daily for me and they get better each time! They are the most beautiful meaningful Valentines cards I have ever rec'd as I know without any doubt their love is true. Today my daughter informed me she loves me more than 2 eggs jumping out of a basket (she's 5) and while I am not quite familiar with that analogy, it'll do for me. Oh and I have been told by the children I have to buy them valentines gifts. So it seems a new tradition has been set in my house. I have thus reciprocated with the card making and gifts of 'love' are being saved for the 14th.CB, thank you so much! Reading about you and your children gave me the "warm fuzzies." How very precious. Not only are you "not without valentines card" but you're not without Valentines! I love that new tradition "they've" set in your home! Too cute and hilarious! I'm happy, although single, you're two "little" people's sweetheart and they're yours! Oooo, almost forgot... I laughed out loud at the "love me more than 2 eggs jumping out of a basket!!!" It wouldn't matter to me either, what it means or being familiar with it. It would mean the world to me as it does to you! Thanks for sharing and commenting, CB.
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